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Why Therapy Isn’t About Fixing You (and Why That’s a Good Thing)

You’re not a fixable thing, broken and waiting to be mended. You’re not a machine with a faulty part that can be tweaked and tightened. You’re a human being; with a story, a body, a history, and levels of unspoken truth—trying to make sense of a world that at times doesn’t even make sense.

I’ve sat across from hundreds of people who mutter the same fear:

Something is wrong with me.

Sometimes it’s said out loud. Sometimes it shows up in silence, like the way they shrink in their sit, or over-apologize for crying. But under the shame, the anxiety, the anger, or the sorrow; there’s always a quiet, aching question:

Am I too much? Or not enough?

The truth? You’re neither.

Therapy is a Relationship, Not a Rescue Mission

I don’t do therapy to you; it’s a space we create together. I bring my training, my experience, and my complete belief in your capacity to heal and grow. You bring your truth, your contradictions, your resistance, your longing.

This isn’t about erasing pain or propping you up for delivery in a neater package. It’s about being real. Sometimes it gets difficult. Sometimes it gets soft. But always, it’s real.

And that’s where healing starts.

You Don’t Have to Be in Crisis to Start

There’s a myth that therapy is something you go to as a last resort, once you’ve hit rock bottom. But therapy isn’t a coping mechanism for breakdowns. It’s a way of making room for breakthroughs.

Some of the most courageous clients I’ve ever worked with weren’t coming apart at the seams. They were holding together so tightly that they’d forgotten how to breathe.

Sometimes healing begins by learning to breathe again.

For Those Living at the Margins: You’re Not Imagining It

If you’ve ever felt like your pain is “too complicated” or “too political” for therapy, you’re not alone.

I know how frequently mental health systems fall short of holding space for the rest of us who sit in the crosshairs of marginalization. Therapy, at its finest, must never make you feel smaller. It must greet your truth with dignity, depth, and a whole lot of courage.

Small Shifts Matter

You don’t have to say the right words. You don’t have to be the “good client.” You just have to show up.

Some sessions might feel life-changing. Others might feel subtle. But healing is rarely loud. It often comes in whispers:

A moment of self-compassion.

A boundary set.

A story told with no shame.

If You’re Thinking About Therapy.

You’re already being courageous. If that sounds like you, perhaps now is the time.

You don’t necessarily need to know exactly what you’re coming for. You just have to be willing to come as you are.

If you would like to co-create, you can reach out to me.

Let’s begin.

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